ESSAY 4, 04/16/09
Marriage is seen by women as a horrible thing that has to happen
to them. A woman's life is seen as cycle of suffering, and marriage
is just another thing that she has no control over...they had a
miserable lives and the only time they were happy was when the
women got together to talk about their lives.....it is an unusual
type of love based on the idea that the man is worth more.(2)
This testimony is indicative of what women go through in arranged marriage. No doubt, when people read these stories, they don't have to live and experience arranged marriage to know that women do actually suffer in it.
In short, arranged marriage should not be encouraged because it denies the couple's rights to choose their prospective life partners. This form of marriage especially when it is consanguineous violates the norms of marriage as a moral institution, where both parties decide when and who they want to marry based on love; the situation is more dire for women when they are divorced because they will lack both emotiona and finantial support. Also women in arranged union tend to suffer sexually, emotionally and physically because they sacrifice their happiness for the respect to their families and their traditions. Accordingly, women deserve the right to choose their life partners and should revolt against the traditional marriage.
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